When our children become anxious or scared, here are some tips on what to say and how to handle their fears:
- “I am here for you.” This creates a sense of containment, where a child knows your are there and have time for them.
- “Tell me about it.” When you create a listening environment, children feel heard and valued.
- “How big is your worry?” Children relate to having big feelings and like the concept of big.
- “Can you draw it?” Sometimes children will easily take to a crayon, marker and paper better than speaking.
- “Do you have any questions?” A great concept for children is questioning and you want to instill that their questions are important.
- “Let’s breathe.” Teach children the concept of breathing deeply, hold it in, and slowly let it out. This is a skill that is valuable and life long.
Author Debbie Ficarra has been the proud owner of La Canada preschool, located outside of Loa Angeles, for 13 years. Prior to becoming a mother to three daughters, Ficarra gained her childhood education, acquiring her AA in Child Development and BA and Masters in Human Development. She also took the required coursework for a degree in Marriage and Family. Ficarra then purchased La Cañada Preschool, which was a dream come true. As a divorcee, and now newly married, Ficarra also knows about working through a divorce with young children. Her main goal in life – family and at work – is to provide the best environment for her preschool students that range between the ages of two and five.