Being right all the time is not right, when coParents are creating parenting plans. Alas, the hardest conflicts to resolve are those based on what the parents see as moral issues. These are often seen as black and white, or as right or wrong.
No compromise can be imagined. Parents can get stuck when they cannot see any way around one of these issues. As an example of a moral issue causing a conflict, let’s consider a family I worked with several years ago. The mother had converted to Judaism after the wedding. The couple’s two children were raised Jewish. After the divorce, the wife went back to her original faith, attending the Roman Catholic church regularly. The parents became locked in conflict over the issue of religion. Mom insisted on the children attending weekly mass with communion as well as attending catechism classes. Dad insisted the children attend Hebrew school and synagogue.
Editor’s Note: This post is an edited excerpt from Debra K. Carter, PhD’s book called COPARENTING AFTER DIVORCE A GPS FOR HEALTHY KIDS
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